I am not a Wedding person. At all.
I hate all the fuss and the bluster and the fact that the whole point of the day – two people chosing to vow to love, protect and support each other for the rest of their lives – can often get lost in the chaos.
I also hate being the centre of attention, find social gatherings deeply stressful and roll my eyes at anything vaugely frilly or cheesy.
Which is a problem when you’re a newly engaged person.
Don’t get me wrong, I am beyond happy that Gary wants me to be his wife and I do want to celebrate that with our friends and family but I’m just not very…bridal.
Over the last two weeks, I’ve been asked the same five questions by lots of people, so I thought it would be easier to write my responses here…
(My brother sent us a dozen white roses and they are SO beautiful!)
1.When’s the wedding??
This was the first thing that SO many people asked when we called or text to let them know that we were engaged!
Realistically, a wedding (even the small, intimate, handmade wedding that we want to have) is going to cost between 15-20K. And I don’t know about you, but we don’t have what’s almost a spare years salary stuffed down the back of the sofa.
Added to that is all the planning that is involved (which is a whole new world that I didn’t even know existed!) and the fact that we just want to enjoy being engaged for a while.
We are hoping to be able to have the wedding either next June or September, because we want to go pretty much straight off on honeymoon and want to avoid the school holidays, but if we can’t get the finances sorted, we may be waiting a while longer.
2. How did Gary propose??
I wrote about this here and it was the most amazing and romantic thing I’ve ever experienced.
3. What’s your ring like??
I am not a blingy person, I don’t wear a lot of jewellery and what I do wear tends to be simple and unfussy.
So buying my ring actually ended up being really easy, once we’d been to a couple of shops and looked around a bit.
My ring is a solitare, princess cut diamond on a platinum setting and I love it.
Sidenote; it’s surprisingly hard to take a decent photograph of a ring!
4. How did Charlie take the news??
We took the decision to wait until we saw Charlie in person, we do speak to him via FaceTime during the week but trying to get a seven year old to focus on a conversation in that setting is much like trying to herd kittens.
So, we waited until bathtime on Friday night and then broke the news to him.
We were both expecting him to be fairly ambivalent about the whole thing, because for him nothing will change, but his entire face lit up when he realised what we were telling him and he declared that the news was ‘totally awesome!’. He also pointed out that I would be his stepmum ‘for real!’ and that that was ‘the best news ever!’.
He’s also excited about the wedding and we’re encouraging him to give us ideas on things that we can do on the day, to make sure that he feels part of it.
We’re also going to ask him to play a key role in the wedding itself, but more on that at another time…
5. Will you become Mrs S??
My surname at the moment is M. His surname is S.
I love being an M and it’s a big part of my identity. At the same time, I want to mark the fact that I’m joining the S family and that my life is changing.
So, I’m going to be Mrs M-S. Simple.
So, those are the things that we’ve been asked the most in the last two weeks and whilst I’m sure the wedding will come up on this blog from time to time, rest assured that this will not become a wedding blog.
But who knows, maybe I’ll become a wedding person?
Or maybe we’ll find a way to have a wedding on our own terms…