Father’s Day

I had a different and more detailed post plannned for this week but our internet has crapped out and won’t work on our laptops (no Netflix!), so a post from my phone will have to do!

I’d like to wish all the dads, daddies, papas, fathers, step-fathers and fathers-in-law a very happy Father’s Day; I hope you have a wonderful time and that you get spoiled by those you love.

And if you don’t have your dad with you – for whatever reason – just know that I’m thinking of you and I hope that today isn’t too tough.

There are two great men in my life; my dad and Gary. Both are kind and patient and funny and loving and I feel lucky to love and be loved by them.


VJ x


Life Lately.

Visiting friends. Charlie’s next ninja belt. Lots of motorbike rides. Our fifth anniversary. A night away in an airstream. Sending out save the date cards. Going to our first (and probably only!) wedding fair. Going back to our venue and falling even more in love with it. Making plans for the summer.  Introducing Charlie to the motorbike. Plenty of Cassidy cuddles. Getting onto the healthy eating and exercise wagon. Bootcamp. An impromptu day-date. Lush baths. Smashing my work target. A heatwave. A care package from a sweet friend. Family time. Quiet times, busy times, just life really…



Life is good.


VJ x

Black Thunder.

Ever since I’ve known him, Gary has wanted a Harley Davidson.

He has always ridden bikes and he previously had a small Harley, but it wasn’t The One.

So when he got a bonus from work, there was really only one thing to do with it…






It’s a Harley Davidson Breakout and it’s the bike that he has been dreaming about for his whole life.

After five years of saving and MONTHS of research and planning, he finally found the perfect bike two weeks ago and we collected it yesterday.

It’s an amazing bike and I know that we will have so many fun adventures on it together!

I am also so happy that he finally got what he has always wanted. He always uses his bonus on things for other people and it’s great to see him use this money to properly spoil himself.

And as for the nickname it’s been given? Well, listen to this…

You’ll certainly hear us coming…


VJ x

Life lately.

Spring has arrived. We’ve tidied up the garden. We accidentally bought a sofa bed and decided to gut the spare room. We’ve made plans to see friends and family, right up to August! Charlie got a brilliantly glowing school report. Cassidy’s face has healed. Gary is going to choose a new motorbike next weekend. I dyed my hair bright red. Our rose bush and plum tree both have new blooms on them. Things are changing for me at work. We booked a photographer for the wedding and ordered ‘Save the Date cards’. We’ve started growing carrots. I started re-reading the Harry Potter books for the billionth time. We’ve started browsing for our yearly holiday. I booked appointments to go wedding dress shopping. Charlie has finally started using his two wheeled scooter, rather than his toddler one. We’ve fallen in love with the new Ed Sheeran album. The sunshine has made everything better. We’ve been on walks and had lazy days. We’ve had food with friends and laughed until our sides ache.











Life is busy. Life is loud. Life is messy.

Life is good.


VJ x

Happy Birthday, Handsome.

I love birthdays. And I love Gary. So for me, Gary’s birthday is one of the highlights of the year.

As a general rule, we don’t really buy each other stuff. We will get tokens to open on the day, but the main present will always be a trip away or tickets for a gig or something to do. A memory to make.

This year, we had Charlie on the weekend before Gary’s birthday (which was on Wednesday). This worked out well, because we could have the big family celebration on the Sunday before, which also happened to be Mothers Day, and so we could celebrate Christine’s first Mothers Day at home with us as well.

Charlie is now at an age where we are trying to encourage him to actively think about the gifts that he gives to people and to make sure that he is part of the gift giving process. He is really into this and settled on the Trolls DVD, some chocolate and Gary’s favourite nuts as gifts for his dad, along with a card with a fart joke on the front – which is a seven year old for you!

And on Sunday morning, Gary got the traditional birthday morning wake up…

Gary opened his gifts from Charlie, a couple of bits from me (Rag n Bone Man’s album on vinyl, a Star Wars mug and a new leather bookmark) and his cards, and we had our usua birthday morning fry-up.

Then the boys went off to get ready and I got the roast lunch prepped. Soon, Gary’s parents and brother arrived and we all had a lovely time, playing board games, being silly and eating lunch! We also enjoyed the delicious chocolate hedgehog cake that Christine had made!





I had already told Gary a few weeks before that I had booked us this cabin in Cornwall for two nights, because we’ve both found that we both like to have a chance to look at what is around wherever we’re going and to be part of the planning of our next adventure.

We had both booked Tuesday-Thursday off work but when he came back from dropping Charlie back to his mum on Sunday, I had a little surprise to tell him about…


What he didn’t know was that I had extended our trip by booking an extra night (Monday night) in a hotel in Exeter, which was about halfway between home and the cabin. It meant that we would be leaving straight after work on Monday and the look on his face when he realised was just brilliant! And hey, romance goes both ways and sometimes it’s nice to throw in a little extra surprise!

So, after tough Mondays at work for both of us, we tucked away our suits and briefcases, made sure our ‘out of office’ emails were switched on and off we went…




We had a lovely night at the Mecure Hotel in Exeter and then after breakfast and a quick wander around the city centre, we got back in the car and headed down into the depths of Cornwall.

I had chosen this cabin because it was private, it was close to lots of little towns and it would give us what we were both craving; a little bit of peace and quiet.

With the wedding (have I mentioned that we’re getting married?!), busy jobs, Charlie and just the hustle of general life, we have both been feeling pretty worn out. So the promise of three days of having no pressure and nothing to do was something special.

The lovely Emma, who owns the cabin, had text me a few times the day before and on the morning we were due to arrive, just to let me know that the cabin was ready and waiting for us.

And it did not let us down.







That was the first thought that came to mind when we walked in. Everything was calm.

It’s a beautiful space, full of light and comfort and peacefulness. It was everything that we were hoping for.

And there were so many lovely little touches; soft blankets in the reading space, fresh milk in the fridge and even a batch of homemade (and delicious!) brownies.

We ventured out to a brilliant local pub for a pint and some food and then came back, got the fire burning and curled up for a cosy and peaceful evening.